Thursday, 21 May 2015
Whose wedding is it anyway?
If you are a Nigerian bride or bride to be,by now you would have realized a lot of people seem to have a say on your wedding ceremony.This includes that uncle from the village whom you have never met and has suddenly surfaced to say this is how you should do things. Relax!
You need to know upfront now that there are some battles you shouldn't bother fighting. So for the sake of your own peace of mind and that of your family give them their dues I am not saying you shouldn't have a say at all and become a doll baby but carefully and respectfully air your thoughts and opinions to them. Let's consider an example where you have lived all your life in the city and now because you are getting married, the head of your family clan has mandated you come down to the village for your traditional ceremony. This is a situation you need to assess ccarefully before you object. Even the holy book says we should give Ceasar his dues. That's my take on that.
Another scenario is if your parents are paying for the wedding irrespective of whether you have the money or not. Remember he who pays the piper dictates the tune. They definitely might want to chip in their suggestion here and there and by all means want to have their way.
Back to my question whose wedding is it anyway? The answer ultimately is that its yours but since you are not an island it's in your best interest to inculcate the values, ideas and opinions of members of your family as well.
You need to know upfront now that there are some battles you shouldn't bother fighting. So for the sake of your own peace of mind and that of your family give them their dues I am not saying you shouldn't have a say at all and become a doll baby but carefully and respectfully air your thoughts and opinions to them. Let's consider an example where you have lived all your life in the city and now because you are getting married, the head of your family clan has mandated you come down to the village for your traditional ceremony. This is a situation you need to assess ccarefully before you object. Even the holy book says we should give Ceasar his dues. That's my take on that.
Another scenario is if your parents are paying for the wedding irrespective of whether you have the money or not. Remember he who pays the piper dictates the tune. They definitely might want to chip in their suggestion here and there and by all means want to have their way.
Back to my question whose wedding is it anyway? The answer ultimately is that its yours but since you are not an island it's in your best interest to inculcate the values, ideas and opinions of members of your family as well.
What do you think? Feel free to leave your comments
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